Society has expectations for many things. There are expectations based on our gender and the way that we should behave, dress and the likes. Females are expected to be feminine by nature and men are expected to be masculine. Females are generally expected to be emotional, whereas males aren’t on the other hand. Males are generally expected to be competitive and females less so.
Now, I could go on about the many contrasting traits between both men and women but that would make this blog post long. It would be even longer if I went into detail about each (or most) traits, which isn’t what I want.
We are socialised into the two different genders right from birth. You’re either dressed in pink clothes or dressed in blue clothes to distinguish your gender (or at least, most are). From a young age we are given specific toys depending upon our gender. Certain behaviours are either encouraged or discouraged depending on our gender. And that’s assuming that when you grow older and more mature that you will accept this gender identity that people around you have tried to socialise you into, or if you feel like it’s just simply not who you are as a person. But, we’ll get into the latter later on as it’s a slightly different topic.
The socialisation of gender is natural and nobody ever questions it. As children grow older it’s expected that girls are more feminine and enjoy dressing up, or that boys are more adventurous people who don’t mind getting dirty. This isn’t the case though and the binary genders aren’t something that should be contrasted against each other. As logical as it may seem that each individual is unique with their own set of unique characteristics, these characteristics are still gendered, which simply shouldn’t be the case.
If somebody identifies as a female or male and is androgynous, then that’s okay.
If somebody identifies as a female and is more masculine, then that’s okay.
If somebody identifies as a male and is more feminine, then that’s okay too.
Girls can be competitive and bossy, just like males can be compassionate and sensitive. Society shouldn’t make you feel ashamed for the true person that you are and the characteristics that don’t conform to the gender expectations/roles.
Within society we are pushed into taking on one of these restricted gendered roles, usually by the sex that we are assigned at birth. But even then, not everybody identifies with the gender that they are assigned at birth. Some may feel gender dysphoria because of this (although from a bit of research, they don’t all experience this, it all depends on the individual). Gender dysphoria is the ‘condition of one’s emotional and psychological identity as a male or female to be opposite to one’s biological sex’. This means that they don’t conform to the gender expectations to an extent.
Other people, however, are genderfluid which means that they don’t idenitify themselves as having a fixed gender and their gender identity can vary from time to time. This means that they don’t conform to the restrictions and expectations of either of the traditional genders, male and female.
There are so many expectations within society and this is just one of them. Just because society expects something from you, however, doesn’t mean you have to conform. After all, you are your own person and you shouldn’t be ashamed or insecure if you don’t live up to those expectations. Embrace yourself!
Please inform me if anything in this post isn’t accurate, especially in regards to genderfluidity, gender dysphoria and such. I’d hate for the information I’ve presented in this blog post to be inaccurate.
I hope you enjoyed this post nonetheless, have a good day!
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