Shyness and rudeness are both two totally different things, but despite this they can still get mixed up when people are socially interacting with one another. Not to mention that it’s very frustrating when people mistake your shyness for rudeness.
Being shy is defined as being a ‘nervous or timid in the company of other people’, whereas being rude is defined as being ‘offensively impolite or bad-mannered.’
They are very clearly two totally different personal attributes that someone may have. Those who are rude are purposefully impolite to be offensive, whereas those who are shy may come across as impolite or bad-mannered but it isn’t intentional whatsoever. It’s out of awkwardness and being nervous more than anything. It’s this that frustrates me more than anything.
Being a shy person, I’d hate for people to think I’m rude, especially if it’s a first impression. That’s never how I want to come across, simply because it isn’t who I am as a person. I’m just shy, that’s all.
Sometimes I’ll feel guilty about being shy and feeling awkward around people. The simplest things which are so easy and natural for some people can be difficult for shy people, whether that’s striking up a conversation with a new person or answering a question confidently in lessons.
We shouldn’t feel guilty, though. It’s not something that we can change overnight either. Like with anything it takes time.
Shyness in it’s simplest terms is a lack of confidence when talking to others. Growing in confidence is going to take time and it’s not going to be easy to the least. Most of the time it’ll mean stepping out of our comfort zone to push ourselves a little. Maybe then we’ll slowly realise that it’s not as scary as might have first anticipated.
Would you consider yourself to be a shy person? If so, have you ever come across people mistaking you being shy for being rude, or any other misconceptions for that matter?
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