I believe that it is in our nature to make people happy. We always want to make good impressions people, whether that be friends, family or new people that we have just met. We want the people that are close to us to be proud of our achievements in life, but with that can come a sacrifice: our happiness.
The people that already know us might have certain expectations of us. This could range from an expectation to go to university, to land a certain job, or whatever the expectation may be. Ultimately we want to live up to these expectations that people may have of us, whether we actually want to or not is a different matter.
I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to live up to those expectations if they don’t align with what makes you happy. If you want to go to university then that’s fantastic. At the same time if you’re expected to go to university but you don’t want or don’t feel ready then don’t feel pressured to go.
At the end of the day this is your life. You should be the driver of your own life, not a passenger. I know it’s easier said than done from experience, believe me when I say I’ve been there, but you need to take control of your life, happiness and wellbeing. You are the only one in your shoes living out your life. If something isn’t making you happy and you can change it, then what’s stopping you?
By living up to other people’s expectations that you don’t want to live up to you’re not living a life you want to live. It will only cause you unhappiness. You’ll be living out a life that’s simply not true to yourself, and is that the kind of life you want to live? Living out a life that someone else wants you to live is denying yourself to live out the life that you yourself want to live. Being selfish once in a while is okay.
Live a life that you want to live and not what others expect from you. If you don’t want to go to university or university is making you unhappy then don’t be ashamed to speak up about it. If there’s a certain subject or career you’re being pushed towards and you don’t want to go down that path then say something – you are in control of your own life and happiness.
You won’t be on your own, and if you feel like your alone then they will be people out there to support you.
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