Some people enjoy being in a relationship whilst others enjoy being single. I’m the latter – being single isn’t all that bad. I guess after being single for literally all my life, it’s something that I have grown accustomed to, but nonetheless it’s something that I love and have grown to love. Being single is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed of in the slightest which is the that I used to think about it. Slowly but surely, I’m becoming less embarrassed about it and embracing that part of me. To me, Valentine’s Day is just another day of the year, it’s never been anything special to me but it’s not something that I’m fussed about either. Here’s are some of the reasons why I love being single.
Independence
One of the big reasons why I enjoy being single is because of the independence. You don’t have to rely on another person to go out and do activities together all the time. Being the introvert that I am, I thoroughly enjoy my alone time and being the independent person that I am. It also gives me the chance to grow independently and find myself as a person.
I can do what I want when I want
Similar to the last one, as I don’t have to factor in another person into my life I can do what I want whenever I want. I don’t have to factor somebody else into the decisions that I make. If there’s a birthday meal or work meal coming up, then this isn’t something that I have to discuss with a partner because, well, I’m single. The decisions and choices that I make are something that I just don’t need to discuss with an extra person.
Spending time alone
Being the introvert that I am, I thoroughly enjoy spending my time alone. Through being single it allows me to embrace my alone time more and it means that I have more time for myself in order to socially recharge my batteries. It allows me to grow independently as a person in my own comfort. In the comfort of myself I know that I can simply be myself without worrying about being comfortable around somebody else. With spending time alone, I know that I won’t feel self-conscious in the slightest.
Being responsible for my own happiness
Not only do I not have to consider someone else in the decisions and choices that I might make in my life, but I also don’t have to rely on them for my happiness. I know that being independent and growing as person by myself that I can rely on myself and the other little things around me for my own happiness. I hate the thought of getting attached to somebody, only for them to ruin my happiness in some way.
One less thing to prioritise
As a result of being single it means that I don’t have to try and balance my time between my partner, friends, family and so on. It makes it a hell of a lot easier to prioritise my time with others and the things that I do as well as balancing my alone time with my socialising. It also allows me to focus more on myself, my career and so on.
Do you enjoy being single, or are you the opposite? I’d be interested to know in the comments!
Ashleigh
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Yesssss I LOVE this post! I really agree with the being responsible for your own happiness! I think we tend to link happiness with people which in the end just hurts more so it’s really amazing when you don’t do it. Amazing post! xxx
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Thank you so much! I 100% agree with you! Xxx
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I love this post and i feel like it’s gonna be so empowering to younger people who might not like being single, it’s quite eye opening as well because ive been in a relationship for over 2 years and i struggle to remember what single life is like, not in a bad way! But sometimes i do just want to have my own free time and it can be difficult when you have someone you have to prioritise! I do love being in a relationship though but i definietly don’t see why people are so unhappy when they’re single!
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Ahh thank you so much!
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This is a brilliant post and empowering for single women I think. I enjoyed being single for many of the same reasons you like it, and know it compromises some of those things to be in a relationship, but for me that works for the moment! Thanks for sharing this 🙂
Alys
https://alysjournals.wordpress.com/
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This post sends out a positive message & being comfortable in yourself & with yourself is key to a happy life. A relationship isn’t the be all & end all.
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Yesss! Loved this! I was single for a few years and enjoyed it ☺️ It’s so nice to have freedom and independence. I’m in a relationship now but always enjoy some time to myself, it’s all about balance I think. Lovely post, thank you for sharing 😘 xx
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Personally, I love being in a relationship more. I always make sure I keep my independence and ensure that all of the things mentioned in this post I stay true to. However it definitely has to be the right relationship. I’ve been in my fair share of rubbish ones but now I have found my beautiful fiancé and couldn’t be happier. It’s definitely important to keep your own identity in a relationship 💕 http://www.animesummers.blogspot.com
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I’m exactly the same as you! I’m 35 and single and other people seem to think it’s a bit weird but I love it! I’m so happy just being me in my own little world looking after myself and doing what I want! I’d always recommend embracing the single life, it is in no way a bad thing 😊 x
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Singles unite! 😉 I do not understand people who MUST be in a relationship to feel ‘complete’. I think it’s very good to be on your own from time to time (or all the time…) and to create a healthy relationship with yourself all by yourself. Although the way others can help and form you shouldn’t be overlooked, not being in a relationship is also a way to achieve ‘happiness’ which I think sometimes gets overlooked and should be celebrated more!
Love,
Dominique
http://www.fashionedbypluche.blogspot.com
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Brilliant post! Totally with you girrrrl 🎉
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I love this! I’ve been single for a while now and I love it! I don’t like having to consult someone else about my decisions or factoring anyone but my dog into my time. I’m very happy living on my own terms. It’ll be hard to adjust whenever I meet someone! x
Sophie
http://www.glowsteady.co.uk
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Honestly, I LOVE being single too, so I really relate to this post- but at the same time I’m also such a hopeless romantic! I love love and falling in love and meeting someone special for the first time. I had a perfectly happy Valentine’s Day alone this year, but i can happy reflect on some beautiful ones from a couple of years ago where this relationship I had was happy and healthy and invested and it was exactly what i needed at that moment. So i’m somewhere in the middle i think, i don’t mind the single life – but if its the right person, a relationship can be so lovely too!
Great post Ashleigh!
Love, Anne // http://www.basifpa-and-did.co.uk
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Love this post! I’m exactly the same. For me it’s my introverted side and spending time on my own, but I definitely get what you mean about priorities. Whenever I think about having to talk to someone on a regular basis and throughout the day it just makes me sigh haha.
It’ll happen when it happens and I’m not rushing anything.
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Thank you! Exactly, I’m not the type of person to rush things. If it happens, it happens
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Great post, I’ve been single for most of my adult life although I’ve now been in a relationship for a year. I love both. I am fiercely independent and would never let my happiness solely depend on another person. Its definitely easier not having to consider someone else in every single decision, but I feel like my burdens are less and my joys are doubled by having someone special there to share them with. I hate how society expects you to be coupled up and as I approached and passed 30, people just thought I was weird for being single – eff you society! haha xoxo
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I realize I love being single and reading your post confirmed it. Thinking about having to consult someone before I do something just sounds like the worst. Reading some of the other comments, I can see the benefit of being in a relationship but as a frankly selfish introvert, a relationship’s just not in the stars right now, or maybe ever, idk! And I’m glad to have found someone online who’s also been single their whole life!
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I’m glad this helped you confirm it! I’m glad we can relate in some way!
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Absolutely agree! I did a post like this a while back, as I love being single as well. I was only in a relationship for a total of 3 years of my 20’s. (I’m 29, turning 30 this year), so I’ve actually been single for most of my 20’s now. I would like to start a family, but I just love my single lifestyle. I’m highly introverted as well, so that’s a big part of it. I’m around people for the entire day, five days a week, at work. Therefore, I really look forward to and enjoy my weekends alone because I need to recharge my batteries.
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Thank you so much for your comment! I’m a big introvert too which probably contributes to it too. Recharging your batteries is so important
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Hi Ashleigh, that was s good read. I’m slightly envious of your situation, whilst I love my wife & daughter very much, I’m now finding that I need more alone time and have to make excuses to get out of functions, I don’t want to go to, purely because I don’t like crowds.
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I really loved reading this, I’ve never really considered having a preference on being single or in a relationship. I really love my relationship, but that hasn’t always been the case in past relationships. But you’re completely right, if you’re happy then it really don’t matter if you’re in a relationship or not!
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I loved this post. More people should just enjoy being single and finding themselves as a person. I was pretty much single until I was 25, I had a couple of boyfriends here and there but nothing serious and I really value that time I took for myself to travel and learn I was and what I wanted. My first serious relationship taught me a lot about what I didn’t want and that I deserved to be treated better and now I’m in a relationship with an amazing guy who treats me like a princess and we respect each other enough to be our own people and make our own decisions as well as being a couple.
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This is so true and relatable! So many of my friends are in relationships at the moment that around them sometimes it doesn’t feel great to be single but I really need that independence personally. It’s so uplifting that you feel the same way! X
Erin // Everything Erin
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I agree with you, I am happy being single too! I like being responsible for my own happiness, and that when I meet someone I want to be with they would be genuinely nice, and we could be an enrichment to each other’s life not a chore or a stress. X
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I love this! I agree, totally! Although I’m not against a relationship, I am just more than happy on my own! 🙂
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Nice post! I love having time to myself and miss the ability to do whatever I want to! Thanks for sharing.
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Loved this post!!! I am a happily married woman, but I was single for a while and I truly loved it! Really people that can deal with their singleness will do much better when married! I love having my hubby to hang with, but I totally understand not having to tell anyone anything and the opportunity to do what you want all the time and not think about anyone else. My hubby used to travel for his job and he would be gone a lot and it was like I was single again in a way. Again, great post!
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I used to enjoy being single until I met the love of my life. ☺️ Pointless dating never appealed to me and I think people need to realise you don’t need an other half to feel appreciated and confident xxx
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i relate so much on this post. lol i find relationships draining to a certain extent
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Awesome post! Really good read.
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I enjoy being single for pretty much every reason you’ve listed. I do worry about “getting too used” to my own space & being single, though I’m trying not to put too much pressure on & get to know girls I’m interested in organically / over time 🤷🏽♂️🙂
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I love seeing women being happy with how they are, you do you girl! Xx
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I am single and like being single. I like my own space. However I do miss some aspects of a relationship but happy working on myself right now xxx
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I agree with you all the way. Some people tend to be afraid of being alone, so in their minds they think that they HAVE to have a significant other. But that’s not the case. Also people look for happiness and love in others, but they forget that they need to be happy with themselves and have self-love before anything.
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I LOVE this post. I just hate people who are judgemental and think happiness only comes from being married and having kids. I am also an introvert. I love my alone time. I also love being near loved ones but sometimes I think I enjoy ME time more then I should ..lol..I have a few friends who always bounce from one relationship to another and I could never figure out why they didnt enjoy getting to know themselves before jumping into the next relationship. It is awesome having the bed to yourself, not having to check in on someone to make sure its ok to have that late night out with your friends. This was refreshing to read.
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TRUE! I LOVE THIS POST SO MUCH! I agree with you, sis! I’m responsible for my true happiness!!
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Thank you for reading!
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I agree!
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