As June is Pride Month, as many of you may be aware, I thought that it would be a nice idea to give somebody the opportunity to write a guest post for my blog as a result of this! For this guest post the lovely Beth from the blog Pastime With Penz has written a post regarding coming out after coming out.
Coming out after coming out
Most of you are probably aware that June is Pride Month, what you may not know is to celebrate this, I’m working with Ashleigh Writes on an LGBTQ+ post which I’m super excited about! That being said, let’s get into it.
For those of you who don’t know me, my name’s Beth and I’m gay. I came out back in January 2017 when I started seeing a girl who later became my girlfriend; however, our relationship didn’t work out – but that’s a story for another day. Fortunately for me, my family and friends were totally cool with me liking girls and I thought this huge thing I’d kept a secret for YEARS was finally over. I came out. So surely that was it, right? Wrong.
Now, you’re probably thinking something along the lines of ‘hold on one second, you literally just said you came out’ – and you’re right. My point is, I don’t think anyone realises that ‘coming out’ is an endless process – I certainly didn’t. Here’s what I mean:
When I started my new job at the end of January this year, I remember contemplating being open about my sexuality or going along with the ‘so do you have a boyfriend’ scenario. If you know me, you may be wondering why, as I’m so confident in being openly gay – which I am; but being someone who identifies as LGBTQ+, I never know what reaction I’m going to get. Yes we are in the 21st century and yes, cultures and societies are evolving but that doesn’t mean that homophobia doesn’t still exist. One in five lesbian, gay and bisexual employees have experienced verbal bullying from colleagues, customers or service users because of their sexual orientation in the last five years; so there’s no wonder why LGBTQ+ folk still feel the need to hide their sexuality in the workplace.
A few shifts in, my manager and I were discussing relationships. She spoke about her partner so naturally, I spoke about mine. After mentioning that I, in fact, have a girlfriend, we quickly moved onto the topic of coming out. When I explained that my parents knew I was gay she asked: “was your mum upset?”. My first thought to this was, “why would she be?” but instead of voicing this question, I simply answered, “no”; although looking back on this, I wish I had the confidence to question what exactly she was implying… Nevertheless, my boss and I get on pretty well and we occasionally discuss my relationship as I imagine we would do if I were straight; however, 26 percent of lesbian, gay and bisexual workers are not open to colleagues about their sexual orientation and 42 percent of trans people do not permanently live as their preferred gender in fear it may threaten their employment status.
About the author
Beth is an eighteen year old blogging writing posts around the topics of LGBTQ+, mental health, lifestyle and beauty. Check out her blog and social links below!